Friday, November 30, 2012

Ignore? Or not to ignore?

Have you ever been in a situation where people just starts to avoid you or boycott you for absolutely no reason?
Or you don't know why?
Or you did something but you didn't know of what you did?

My bet is that everyone once faced this situation at least one time in their lives.

This problem emerges or pops out almost instantly anytime anywhere.
But to solve this problem? 
Its a whole different story.

But that is what human nature is.
When we have nothing to do, we look for something to do.
In this case, the dumbest thing to do.

Lets put into a simple example.
A and B were close friends.
Suddenly, B starts to ignore A.
A wonders why.
In the end, A was to stressed up he killed himself. 
The end.

See?
That was a rather simple explanation no?
HA HA! 
But seriously.

You can't just ignore someone for something that they did unintentionally.
Unless they did it intentionally, then you have every damn right to ignore them.
But there is a differences whether the person you are ignoring is innocent or guilty.

If you are the one being ignored/boycotted, try to find out the reason why you are being treated that way.
Because people don't just react without being stimulated.
Just like the Mimosa plant. 
It only closes when people touches it.
Like humans, our self defense mechanism don't just go off without someone trying to hurt us.
And maybe sometimes the reason for their actions isn't always have something to do with you.
It maybe due to another party or another situation.
So don't beat up yourself and think its your fault when people treats you this way. 
But to just stay strong and find the reason for their actions.

If you are the one ignoring/boycotting, confirm the fact with your own eyes.
We all know rumors is a MUST in this world.
And rumors=unconfirmed fact
You can't just judge someone when you hear a rumor about them.
Confirm it with your own eyes and then decide where to go from there.
Its just like smoke.
Where there is smoke, you don't just run into the smoke do you? You would eventually ram into a wall or obstacle.
But instead you will be more careful and walk slowly, feeling whatever that is in front of you.
Likewise, if you just trust in what other people says without confirming, you will hurt yourself and the person you are ignoring.

Also never forget that we are not perfect.
Humans are never perfect.
No matter how you strive for perfection, you will never attain it.
The key point is that you must learn how to live with your imperfections.
Thats the only way to a happy lifestyle.

When the society starts to turn against you, don't think that the society is wrong or judgmental only.
We have to think about their viewpoint too.
In other words, look at yourself in the mirror.
Focus on improving yourself from time to time.
Find out what you did wrong and where it went wrong then improve.

But if you DID something wrong and you know it and you just wanna be ignorant about the fact that you once did it?

Go kill yourselves.
You were aware that you once did something bad, and you just intend to patch things up like it never happened?
You are just digging your own grave.
Or if you know that you have a bad attitude and you couldn't care less to change it
You wont get anywhere with that.

Not everyone in this world knows what to do when it happens.
But we just need some guidance and reminder that we need help.

Phrase to remember?
"Always strive for improvement, not perfection"
"Willingness to change gives you more keys to open different doors"

Life is like a huge hallway.
There are multiple doors, with multiple tenants in it.
Will you find an empty room to stay?
Or will you just sleep in the hallway path?
Your choice.

I am aware that I have come up with multiple Life Idioms for multiple situations/occasions.
But it's all relevant and meaningful no?
I might be just getting ahead of myself lol xD

Nevertheless, the feeling of people walking away from you hurts.
But note that also when you decide to do something, you can't just erase it leisurely.
If you wanna walk away, just go.
Never come back, because not everyone is a fool.
We learn from mistakes...... eventually.

So I bid ya'll a good day, and God bless! ^^

TOODLES

Monday, November 26, 2012

Past

Wow, a month and a half not writing anything.
Guess I must be pretty awesome to be this busy eh ;)

Well, since its been a while, and I am having my life turned upside down again, so lets take some time being an emoholic douche again. HA HA!

So past?
It doesn't define what your future is.
Heck you wont even know what the future holds for you either.
All you can do is expect the best out of every moment you live.
Like ma momma always says, "when you git a box o'chocolates, you never know what ya might git" 
Your past may define who you are now, but it doesn't define your future self.
Everyone changes, thats common.
Its just the matter of changing for the good of for the worse.
You yourself will decide that.
Nobody or nothing stays the same forever.
Something is bound to change eventually, no matter how long it lasts.

As easy as ABC, many wished that they could just erase their past with a snap of a finger.
Me? I would wish for a genie to erase my past.
But given that I ain't got no genie, I have to wish I had a genie first.
BUT the fact that I can't wish for a genie with my genie because it didn't exist, makes me a sad little boy :(
HAHAH just kidding.
But seriously.
The only way to erase your past in the world we live in, is to have a deep pockets.
Really. DEEP. Pockets.

Some of us may have a tainted or an embarrassing past, but you just have to live with it and make the best out of it.
And by making the best out of it, is to realize that you will never ever wanna try that dumbsh*t ever again. HAHAH
Living with your past may be hard, but that is just life.

You either move on, or you stay at one place in life while everyone moves on.
You can either smile and deal with the problem(s) calmly or freak out and runs away from the problem(s).
But take note, running away from the problem NEVER solves anything.
As the matter of fact, the longer you leave it, it will come back eventually with a titanium braces ready to sink in your butt.

Like I said over and over again, "Nobody says life is easy"
You will have a lot of problems as you live.
But hey, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger no?

Lets imagine, that you were once a introvert. I repeat.
INTROVERT.
Sulking at the corner by yourself or isolating yourself from the society and lock yourself up in the room.
Hating social contact or even talking to anyone.
................................. Ain't proud to admit that I was once that douche =,=
Frankly, I am NEVER proud of the things I did or the stuffs I did in the past.
And I can't change it either, so all I can do now is live with it and use it to my advantage.... somehow. Lol
Yet I still chose to move on despite my past, because life is short.
Staying at square one the whole time isn't gonna get you any better in life.
Anyways relating to the situation I have given above, being forced to deal with people is prolly the hardest thing I faced at that time.

But hey, people changes.
You just have to give everything a chance or you wont be able to get the best out of life.
Second chance at most.
But when life is throwing the same shi*s at you over and over again, realize your mistake man.
Sometimes its not all about giving everything a chance, but also know what-to and what-not-to in life.

So I just decided to give people, chances.
And man, did I regret it. HAHHAH
Kidding.
Well maybe not, some things are not always meant to be flowers and rainbows.
You get what I mean.

You know what?
I am drunk typing now.
Have no idea what in the world I typed.
Then again, lemme end with this.

Take your past as an asset you invested on.
Is just that your investment didn't turn out so well just yet.
But in the future, the investments you made will turn out worth it.
The question is, when the investment is in the red zone, will you give it up?
Or will you find a loophole to use the investment for a bigger profit?

TOODLES!